When my Favorite Husband and I discussed having children in the dating days we knew we wanted them close together in age.
For several reasons but hopefully so that they would be good friends and have each other. This is the thing with siblings, friends, lovers, even spouses may come and go but you will always have your brother (or sister)...so get along! (The get along part is usually added by my sister to her daughters!:) But works for everyone...child, teen or adult)
As well, I am much, much younger than my siblings. An after thought one could say. The next in line to me is 5.5 yrs older. Yes, two of my siblings and I are very, very close now but not as children. Not really. It went in spurts due to age and stage. My FH and his brother are close in age, similar to our boys, and they were very close as well.
Add all this together and this is why we chose to have our boys 21 months apart. Oh there were days, months even, when I thought we were nuts to have done it this way. It's hard!
Then there is today.
This past week or so when the boys are playing so well together and W includes R to play at home. Except when it comes to W's room...his "private space"...and even though that's hard for R, it's okay.
But today! Today is grand!
Today, we were out for our Monday grocery shop, the boys riding in the back seat of the Caddy, and I hear,
"We're best friends, R. Right?"
"Yeah, W!"
"And we're best brothers!"
"Yeah! Brothers!"
Then at the movie store, there they are leaning against the counter, side by side, with W's arm around R's shoulders.
Melt. My. Heart.
PS: Notice Warner's matching clothes? He dressed himself...and wanted to wear it to school!
For those exact same reasons our boys are 20 months apart :o)
ReplyDeleteAnd let me tell you I have never regretted it. Ever. Not even having two kids in diapers... the pros outweighed the cons by far!
Let it continue please....have you been praying?
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Maureen...I'm going to keep praying with all my might! It's been wonderful!
ReplyDeleteLesley....you're oh so right. Hard in the baby and toddler days but wonderful at times...look at your Thing 1 & Thing 2!
Oops, forgot to sign my name!
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Awwwwwwww. Isn't it nice! Even though our boys are 3 years apart, they are very close as well. It is a wonderful feeling when you witness just how much they love each other, it truely does melt your heart.
ReplyDeleteI'm sure in the later years they will have their trials, but at the end of the day will be there for each other no matter what. It's the joys of having a sibling or siblings that make life worth it somedays.
Although our two were not really planned to be 18 months apart, I would not change it for anything either! Especially in hockey season when every other year they play on the same team! and this year on the same line most of the time.... good as twins I tell ya!
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